Switch to Accessible Site
Hands Holding Plant
GrowthBRINGS POSITIVE CHANGE

Self-Care Tips

Self-care tips, random thoughts, and quotes for your pleasure and learning: 

  • From A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle: "Sometimes letting things go is an act of far greater power than defending or hanging on." What is it that you need or want to let go of? 

  • Rumi, 13th century poet wrote: 

    The Guest House

     

    This being human is a guest house.

    Every morning a new arrival.

     

    A joy, a depression, a meanness,

    some momentary awareness comes

    as an unexpected visitor.

     

    Welcome and entertain them all!

    Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,

    who violently sweep your house

    empty of its furniture,

    still, treat each guest honorably.

    He may be clearing you out

    for some new delight.

     

    The dark thought, the shame, the malice.

    meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.

     

    Be grateful for whatever comes.

    because each has been sent

    as a guide from beyond.

  • If we could read the secret history of our enemies,
    we should find in each man's life sorrow and suffering
    enough to disarm all hostility.
    - Henry Wadsworth Longfellow 

  • Bring awareness to moments of reacting and explore options for responding with greater mindfulness, spaciousness and creativity, in formal meditation practice and in everyday life. Remember that the breath is an anchor, a way to heighten awareness of reactive tendencies, to slow down and make more conscious choices. Even if you don’t have a regular meditation practice, you can anchor 2-3 deep breathes each day with something you automatically do such as brushing your teeth or eating meals. 

  • If I Had My Life to Live Over

    I'd dare to make more mistakes next time.

    I'd relax. I would limber up.

    I would be sillier than I have been this trip.

    I would take fewer things seriously.

    I would take more chances.

    I would take more trips.

    I would climb more mountains and swim more rivers.

    I would eat more ice cream and less beans.

    I would perhaps have more actual troubles but I'd 

    have fewer imaginary ones.

    You see, I'm one of those people who live sensibly 

    and sanely hour after hour, day after day.

    Oh, I've had my moments and if I had it to do over 

    again, I'd have more of them. In fact, 

    I'd try to have nothing else. Just moments.

    One after another, instead of living so many 

    years ahead of each day.

    I've been one of those people who never go anywhere 

    without a thermometer, a hot water bottle, a raincoat 

    and a parachute.

    If I had my life to live over, I would start barefoot 

    earlier in the spring and stay that way later in the fall.

    If I had it to do again, I would travel lighter next time.

    I would go to more dances.

    I would ride more merry-go-rounds.

    I would pick more daisies.

    By Nadine Stair (age 85)

  • The Universe Has Your Back by Gabrielle Bernstein

    “When you deliberately focus your attention on love and joy, then you open the floodgates to receive miracles. Most of us get caught up focusing on what’s going wrong. But what if we spent our days looking at all that’s going right? Make a conscious effort to look for love throughout the day. To ignite this process, begin your day with a prayer: I focus my attention on the love that is around me, and I expect miracles.” 

  • The quote is from the book The Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood: "The point is simply this: How tender can we bear to be? What good manners can we show as we welcome ourselves and others into our hearts?" 

  • The Universe Has Your Back by Gabrielle Bernstein

    “The next time you get hung up in a victim mentality over why something isn’t working out the way you planned, simply say this prayer and realign with love:

    Thank you, Universe, for helping me see this obstacle as an opportunity. I will step back and let you lead the way.” 

  • “I keep the telephone of my mind open to peace, harmony, health, love and abundance. Then, whenever doubt, anxiety, or fear try to call me, they will keep getting a busy signal – and soon they’ll forget my number.”  – Edith Armstrong

  • Perhaps ultimately, spiritual simply means
    experiencing wholeness and interconnectedness directly,
    a seeing that individuality and the totality are interwoven,
    that nothing is separate or extraneous.
    If you see in this way, then everything becomes spiritual in its deepest sense.  Doing science is spiritual. So is washing the dishes. - Jon Kabat-Zinn

  • Anxiety a problem? There's a wonderful, inexpensive tool in the APP store - Anxiety Release APP

     

    Go to the APP store and look for Anxiety Release 

     

    It’s likely the second APP that comes up

     

    Look for a blueish symbol shaped kinda like a Burning Man 

     

    Mark Grant is the author - lovely English accent 

     

    Based on EMDR 

     

    It’s $4.99

     

    Download it

     

    Be sure to read the “Info” section in the upper right hand corner - lots of valuable information.  

     

    You need headphones to use and need to be able to look at the screen. 

     

    Short mediations that are very valuable.  I have no affiliation with this company. I just believe in their product. 

     

  • “Commitment is that turning point in your life when you seize the moment and convert it into an opportunity to alter your destiny.” – Denis Waitley 

  • Mary O’Malley’s book The Gift Of Our Compulsions has been so valuable to me in learning how to keep addressing my feelings when I just want to escape the intensity.  In the past I headed for sugar to numb myself out from feeling too much or I ate when I was tired instead of resting. I am grateful for my struggles because they have taught me a lot.  What are you noticing you do to escape? 

  • The Universe Has Your Back by Gabrielle Bernstein

    “This is my mission: to guide you to choose love no matter what so that you can turn all obstacles into opportunities for spiritual growth.”

  • TedTalk https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability

  • Sit down wherever you are
    And listen to the wind singing in your veins. 
    Feel the love, the longing, the fear in your bones. 
    Open your heart to who you are, right now, 
    Not who you would like to be, 
    Not the saint you are striving to become, 
    But the being right here before you, inside you, around you. 
    All of you is holy. 
    You are already more and less 
    Than whatever you can know. 
    Breathe out, 
    Touch in, 
    Let go.

    By: John Welwood

  • Listened to a woman's idea where she is high-fiving herself to give herself credit for each of her personal accomplishments per day. It reminds me of something that I started some time ago and that I recommend people do to feeling even better about themselves. I say “Hello Beautiful” to myself when I see my reflection in a mirror, window, water, or anything that reflects.  Sometimes I use a funny voice, sometimes I use my normal voice, and each time I feel better. At times it’s resulted in me laughing hysterically because my hair is a mess or I have on really grubby clothes. You might want to add this to your repertoire of things to do for yourself for TLC. If you're a guy just substitute the word to "handsome."

  • The Universe Has Your Back by Gabrielle Bernstein

    “The moment you witness frustration in your life try this prayer: Universe, thank you for helping me find joy in this situation.”

  • I don't have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness.
    It's right in front of me if I'm paying attention and practicing gratitude.
    - Brené Brown 

  • “Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much.”

    –– Helen Keller 

  • If you are like me, you are often frustrated by computers. When my computer has a problem and I contact a professional, the first thing they usually recommend is to turn it off and start it again and see if that fixes it. Nine times out of ten, it cures my problem. Sometimes a computer just needs to reboot, and so do we! We just need to start again with self-compassion and a helpful reboot for our minds. We all deserve GOLD STARS because each of us is doing the very best we can! So give yourself a "reboot" by giving yourself credit for something you are doing right. 

  • HAPPY LABOR DAY - CELEBRATING BEING AN AMERICAN! 

  • What is your intention today? My intention for today is to surrender to whatever is most helpful to my highest good. This likely means getting more rest and stressing less.

  • “With every act of self care your authentic self gets stronger, and the critical, fearful mind gets weaker. Every act of self care is a powerful declaration: I am on my side; each day I am more and more on my side.”   Susan Weiss Berry

  • "Determination and perseverance move the world; thinking that others will do it for you is a sure way to fail."  Educator, Marva Collins

  • Researcher James Pennebaker wrote Writing to Heal and found 15-20 minutes of writing, 4 days in a row helped reduce anxiety, rumination, and depressive symptoms and it boosts our immune systems. 

  • “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who come short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who is the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly…" Theodore Roosevelt

  • What are you doing to shift your behavior to support yourself? 

  • Notice two things in your life today: 1. What are your moment by moment experiences of happiness? 2. What gave you satisfaction during your day? 

  • From the book: The Only Little Prayer You Need by Debra Landwehr Engle - PLEASE HEAL MY FEAR BASED THOUGHTS. "When we ask for our fear-based thoughts to be healed, we are asking to replace fear with love and acceptance." 

  • Phone App "Anxiety Release "by Mark Grant based on EMDR principles. Need headphones to use. Less than $5 investment. Plus, the meditations are short and very valuable for any kind of anxiety. 

  • “Tomorrow is the first blank page of a 365 page book. Write a good one.” Brad Paisley 

  • Research shows that our deepest sleep occurs within 20-90 minutes of going to sleep. So, perhaps even those of you who wake up in the middle of the night with insomnia challenges, can give yourself more credit for the rest you are getting. 

  • Forgiveness is a big act that many people advise us to do. However, it’s not always an easy task. We don’t forgive to help the other person, nor do we forgive for anyone but ourselves. Forgiveness is at its best a form of personal liberation, the ultimate in self-care. This is true both scientifically and spiritually. Research shows that people who are more forgiving experience fewer physical and mental health problems along with fewer physical symptoms of stress. 

  • “Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your inner voice.” Steve Jobs

  • The Universe Has Your Back by Gabrielle Bernstein

    “The next time you get hung up in a victim mentality over why something isn’t working out the way you planned, simply say this prayer and realign with love:

    Thank you, Universe, for helping me see this obstacle as an opportunity. I will step back and let you lead the way.” 

  • You have heard that meditation will improve your life in ways you can't imagine and yet most people don't manage a regular practice. There are some easier ways to focus moment to moment that can bring a sense of peace inside. Bring awareness in moments of reacting and explore options for responding with greater mindfulness in everyday life is one of them. The breath can be an anchor, a way to heighten our awareness of reactive tendencies, a way to slow down and by deepening our breath it can help us make more conscious choices. You can anchor 2-3 deep breathes each day with something you automatically do such as brushing your teeth or eating meals. This small anchoring can give you a greater sense of inner tranquility.

  • If we could read the secret history of our enemies,
 we should find in each man's life sorrow and suffering 
enough to disarm all hostility.
- Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

  • "I don't have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness.
 It's right in front of me if I'm paying attention and practicing gratitude.
"- Brené Brown

  • Lighten up, play more, laugh at yourself. Schedule time for recreation. Spend time with friends and family who love you. You will be happier as a result.

  • Those of you dealing with urges, here's an 8 minute meditation that's excellent:  http://depts.washington.edu/abrc/mbrp/recordings/Urge%20Surfing.mp3

  • It's okay to say "no" to requests from others. Your time is one of your most precious commodities; use it wisely.

  • Researcher James Pennebaker wrote Writing to Heal and found 15-20 minutes of writing, 4 days in a row helped reduce anxiety, rumination, and depressive symptoms and it boosts our immune systems. I encourage each of us to do our own writing. I am doing it and it's helping with my stress level. 

  • "A friend is a gift you give yourself."  Writer, Robert Louis Stevenson

  • Important question to ask yourself: What is the one thing I need to do to take care of me today?

  • Be persistent in achieving your goals. It's important to remember that there is no such thing as failure, just a delay in achieving your goal. Go for your dream.

  • "Destroy negative thoughts when they first appear. This is when they're the weakest." Songide Makwa

  • “Tomorrow is the first blank page of a 365 page book. Write a good one.” Brad Paisley 

  • "What we do during our working hours determines what we have; what we do in our leisure hours determines what we are."
    Entrepreneur, George Eastman

  • Growing older is not an option, it's a given if we are fortunate. How we grow older is an option! Are you growing older with grace?

  • Don't Sweat the Small Stuff in Love is a great bathroom reader for both people in a relationship. It helps us be aware of how to make the best of our connections with people we love.

  • More "messages from God" on billboards around the USA: Need a marriage counselor? I'm available.        Follow me.               Keeping using my name in vain, I'll make rush hour longer.               I don't question your existence.

  • Change happens all the time yet many resist it. It is the one constant factor in our lives year after year. Think about a year ago and what has changed in your life? Change won't go away. What can you do to welcome and embrace it? 

  • All relationships need work and dedication to remain in them. My observations of what happy partners do are: 1. Say please and thank you to each other- treat each other with dignity and respect, just like most people treat strangers. 2. Reminisce about how, when, where, and why they fell in love - they talk about it and remind each other of their loving beginning history. 3. Show and say appreciation for each other. They display an attitude of gratitude toward each other and their relationship.

  • "Thank you" are extremely important words. How often are you using them? If you don't us them much, can you start with silently saying them each time you are grateful?

  • From the book, The Universe Has Your Back by Gabrielle Bernstein Page 117 “Begin your day with a prayer: I focus my attention on the love that is around me, and I expect miracles.”

  • It is our choice if our life is empty or fulfilling. An empty life is one of isolation. A fulfilling life is one of connection. Are you ready for a challenge? Relate to people you don't normally talk to, offer a helping hand, listen, practice connecting. What do you have to lose except emptiness?

  • "The people I want to hear about are the people who take risks."  Robert Frost 

  • Additional Self-Care Tips
Schedule Appointment

Start your new path in life and be the change today!

Click Here